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What “I don’t have the time or money” REALLY means

time, money and prioritiesSometimes when I tell people my rates, they’re surprised at how much a one-to-one style pilates studio session costs.
I’ve found that people are often less prepared to invest in things for their own wellbeing than they are for other ‘essential’ costs.
“You spend much more on that every month on your car,” I’ve said in the past.
“But I need my car!” is often the reply I hear.

To which I always think… don’t you need your body just as much?!

My point is, it’s important once in a while to take a step back and look at what you’re investing (in time, money, effort, energy, whichever resources you may have) into different things, and if you have decided these things should be priorities. We all have limited resources, and a finite amount of time on this earth. Shouldn’t we spend them on the things which really matter?

One thing I’ve found useful is this tip about changing your language about your priorities:

Instead of saying “I don’t have time” [or “I don’t have the money”] try saying “it’s not a priority,” and see how that feels. Often, that’s a perfectly adequate explanation. I have time to iron my sheets, I just don’t want to. But other things are harder. Try it: “I’m not going to edit your résumé, sweetie, because it’s not a priority.” “I don’t go to the doctor because my health is not a priority.” If these phrases don’t sit well, that’s the point. Changing our language reminds us that time is a choice. If we don’t like how we’re spending an hour, we can choose differently.

Our priorities are not the things we claim are important, but the things which we actually prioritise (ie. we value them enough to sacrifice other things for their sake).

The proof is in the pudding, and in deeds, not words.

Taking good care of our bodies and minds is one of the easiest things to get lost by the wayside. Instead of saying ‘I don’t have the time or money to exercise and look after my body’, how does it sound to say ‘exercise and looking after my body isn’t a priority’?

Especially when stacked in contrast against some of the less ‘essential’ things we might be spending a significant amount of our time and money on? Eating out a few too many times a week, a nicotine habit (pretty expensive these days!), vegging out in front of yet another DVD. Buying things we don’t need just for the sake of shopping. Getting a piece of clothing that doesn’t even fit very well just because ‘it’s on sale.’

Do these priorities hold their water against doing the grown up things we can do to properly care for ourselves and our bodies?

Something to mull over this week!

Love and blessings,
Chris Blagdon

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